Every talk show and entertainment “news” program has been buzzing about the upcoming release of the movie based on the book series with the same name: Fifty Shades of Grey. It’s all over social media and is being discussed, sometimes at length, in almost every doctor and dentist office waiting room. Now that the very popular book trilogy has been read, and probably re-read, the movie is scheduled to be released this Friday, February 13th. Good luck! And it’s just in time for Valentines Day. Coincidence? Probably not. But nevertheless, if you guys want to really please your significant other(s), take her or him (or them) on a very special date. Maybe you can even catch the movie while you’re at it.
I’m not necessarily putting in a plug for the movie, I’m saying that with all the hype, it seems that anyone who is interested, or just curious to see what it’s all about will want to be there. There are many fans of the book and they surely will be eager to see if the movie does it justice. Plus, the actors who portray the main characters are very, let me say, uh…appealing. Furthermore, come Monday morning, no wants to stand at the proverbial water cooler without an opinion on the scenes contained in the big-screen version of the story. And what a story it is!
Which leads me to the crux of this commentary. it is a story. Fascinating subject matter, scintillating scenes, imaginative imagery, captivating characters. But a story nonetheless. We all need some escape from the daily routine, the reality of life. That’s entertainment.
However, if the storyline or the plot, or whatever the images evoke for you stir some deeper interest, then congratulations on your new awakening. In case you haven’t heard, and I cannot imagine how you’ve managed to avoid it, the subject of the story is sex. Not just sex, but extraordinary sex. And by that I do not mean fabulous, earth-shattering, toe-curling sex. I mean “out-of-the-ordinary” sex. Above and beyond the usual sex. Well, for the most part. For so many in the Kink Community, it is not that unusual at all. You know who you are, so you’ll forgive my previous descriptions. Thank you. You all know that it isn’t necessarily about sex at all. Not sex as we typically refer to sex, anyway. It’s a form of sexual expression that goes above and beyond, as I said, the limitations and constrictions of the genitals. It can be mind-blowing, spiritually uplifting, soul-freeing and liberating.
With that comes the caveat: It may not be for everyone. I don’t mean the movie, though that probably is also true. What I’m referring to here is the practice of Kink. Briefly, what I mean by “kink” is what those of us in the Sexological profession, and the many, wonderful members of the Community call “the opposite of Vanilla.” And I don’t mean chocolate!
For more information on Kink and other related “alternative” practices, there are a number of very good resources. If you search the Internet you will find far too many so-called experts, most of whom are anything but. There are a few that i do recommend and for a list of them you can contact me at this website. We are happy to lead you in the right direction.
So, if you want something fun to do this weekend, and don’t mind seeing what the movie studios believe is right for you, then by all means stand on line for tickets. They’re probably sold out already anyway. And as the saying goes: Don’t try this at home (unless you really know what you’re doing!).
More to come on this and other topics. Thanks again for reading.