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When assigning a label to define one’s sexual orientation, it has historically been limited to one of the top three. Yes, there is a fourth. One that there have been numerous discussions about, which is Asexual. However, that issue has been widely debated among professionals in the field of Sexology and Sexual Therapy. I am not getting into that debate here and now. Perhaps not ever within this forum. For today’s purpose, just try not to think about that for … Read More

After many years of practice as a sex therapist, I think that it’s time I got in on the discussion around sexual harassment and abuse. For those of us in this field, it is a conversation fraught with personal and societal pressures. I feel that I must start by saying that no one should ever be subjected to unwanted sexual advances or violations. Nobody. Not women, not men, not boys, not girls, not young nor old…..nobody! I have had this … Read More

How many times has this happened to you? You’re minding your own business, sitting in your living room or the kitchen or somewhere else you thought was safe, when your partner unexpectedly asks: What are you thinking about? You freeze. Your mind races. You stop to consider: What was I thinking about? Is there a good answer? Should I tell the truth? Why not? It wasn’t anything special. Or was it? Think fast because if you take too long to … Read More

Every talk show and entertainment “news” program has been buzzing about the upcoming release of the movie based on the book series with the same name: Fifty Shades of Grey. It’s all over social media and is being discussed, sometimes at length, in almost every doctor and dentist office waiting room. Now that the very popular book trilogy has been read, and probably re-read, the movie is scheduled to be released this Friday, February 13th. Good luck! And it’s just … Read More

When discussing sex and sexuality it is important to remember a few things. First, when talking about sex we need to consider that the word sex is both a noun and a verb. The word sex, when used as a noun, refers to the biological differences between male and female. Yes, there are variations of the two, as in Intersex, or when gender doesn’t correspond to the biology. Gender, in other words, isn’t based on the physical or biological sex … Read More

It seems that there has been some discussion over the question of whether bisexuality exists. Some time after the terms heterosexual and homosexual were first introduced into the vernacular, people began to debate whether or not there is a third orientation which encompasses aspects of both. The term bisexual was coined and has been used ever since. Initially, it was thought that bisexuality was a 50/50 split, meaning that bisexuals were equally attracted to the opposite sex and people of … Read More

Consent. What does it mean and how does it apply to sexual behaviors and interactions? Is nudity a sexual expression? Consequently, can one person’s nakedness be considered an intrusion into another person’s privacy? Questions, always questions. Yes, but can there be real answers without first establishing what the questions are? Simply put, no. Question number one: What is consent? Go ahead, take a moment or two to formulate your answer. Once you’ve got it crystallized you may proceed. BUFFERING………………. OK. … Read More

Is online pornography a blessing or is it a curse for society at large? The simple answer is: NEITHER. Think of it this way. Just because something is available, doesn’t mean we’re forced to use it. Should we ban all alcoholic beverages because for some it has become a problem? How about gambling? Marijuana? Painkillers! Granted, the advent of pornography on the Internet has led to a whole new set of problems for our youth and those who have a … Read More

The old adage that those who talk a lot about sex aren’t doing it very much just isn’t the case, or so it seems. At a recent gathering of sex therapists, sex educators, sex workers and others, it was evident that talking more about sex increases the likelihood that there will be more (and better) sexual activity in the future. The participants who attended this fun, fascinating and informative SAR (Sexual Attitude Restructuring/Reaffirmation) in Berlin, Germany watched videos, listened to … Read More

Turn on the television. Check out the Internet news headlines. Pick up a magazine. How many of these contain topics related to sex? An overwhelming number of the stories are at least peripherally related to sex. When you’re at a party or other social gathering and someone tells a joke or “funny story” its theme is usually sex. Why? Sex is the great equalizer, isn’t it? Most people have had it, are currently having it, or wish that they were … Read More